Does It Seem Like A Trend?Wednesday, November 16th, 2011
Author Java Man
Fathers are indespensible. There. I’ve said it.
I’ve gone against the conventional wisdom of the times and stated a truth that is unpopular. Fathers, especially involved fathers, are indespensible to the upbringing and education of children to responsible adults.
As I’ve mentioned in a previous article, I’ve recently had a birthday. One of my in-laws, sent me a stack of books – all released in conjunction with the movie, “Courageous”.
Now, I’ve been wanting to go see the movie, but it’s been in limited release, and we’ve been busy. Thankfully, it’s still showing at one of our local theaters, so we went to see it this past Sunday afternoon. An amazing movie – the characters are well established and complex, and yes, even flawed. The situations not simply cookie-cutter, and the resolutions not easy to implement.
After seeing the movie, I have dived (dove?) into reading the first book (well, it’s the first one that made sense to me to read), and I have to say that it, and the movie, have posed a bit of a challenge to me.
While already desiring to be a good father to the kids I am step-fathering, this has challenged me to step up and be more than just a father, but to be a ‘dad’ and to be the best dad, and the best man I can be. A man’s man, so to speak. A man of Integrity. With a capital ‘I’. Not that I didn’t want to be previously. Sometimes, however, a shot of inspiration is needed.
Even more than that, a Man after God’s own heart, as David was.
Studies have indicated that men that lead their families, and raise their children purposefully, have a tremendous impact on how their children grow into adults, and how those children fare in their adulthood.
I want my kids to do well – what father/dad doesn’t? Yet, we are more invested in our work and hobbies or golf game, than we are in our childrens lives. Does that seem right to you?
It takes a courageous man to stand up and say, “No more!”
“No more soft-porn on the TV in MY house.”
“No more compromise on ethical issues in MY house.”
“No more ‘bending the truth’ because it’s convenient in MY house.”
And it take the courage of one’s convictions to say, “As for me and MY house; we will serve the LORD” – to teach our kids right from wrong, truth from lie, good from evil. That character really does count. That integrity is doing what is right. Every time. Even when no one is watching. *Especially* when no one is watching.
If we had a few men of courage these days, we might take back the country from the looters that seem to think they are entitled to sit and loaf while the rest of us work to support them. If our men of Courage would lead us to say, “No more!”
As I wrote in one of my previous posts, “All it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.” But those good men, they need courage!
Where are you men of Courage? When will you appear and stand up for what is right?
As I take these issues of life by the horns; as I chose this day, and every day, to renew my resolve to bring up my children in the knowledge of truth; and as I recommit myself to model a life of Integrity myself, will you join me?
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Java, here’s another small thought: a decent, ethical, principled courageous man needs the backing of a good woman for his partner, and those are rather hard to come by, too. You’ve got a gem in “Beautiful,’ Alan’s spouse must be a combination of Saint and Wonder Woman, and Charles, of course, staggers along with me. I think part of what makes it work for all of us isn’t just that we’re good people but that we do see our relationships as partnerships. I have commented before that dear Charles is a dirty, lousy, nasty, rotten cheat because he plays so unfair. He knows that all he has to do in ordinary situations is say, “I wish you woldn’t.” Is that awful, or what? Yes, and unfair. And why I don’t have a camel and a tiger. I certainly can do anything I wish, but I may not do precisely as I please because it would make him unhappy. (He took what he insists is not an unreasonable dislike to camels in Egypt, Afghanistan, and Kuwait, but until I get to know a camel personally how will I know? Maybe they just haven’t been loved enough.) Hah. I just made a dreadful threat; I informed him that if he dies before I do I’m going to call the exotic animal dealer and buy a camel. Even before I call the crematorium. Well, it might take a few days to find a camel and I want it at the funjeral. Where it will probably eat all the flowers. Gentle laughter…if I really, really wanted to do something, though, he’d help me figure out a way to get it done.
The answer, Java, is I will be the best lady I know how, that being the best I can do. I will be honorable, truthful, kind, and never, ever vote for a Democrat.
Okay, who is next?